FEELING DISSOLVE"© a healing tool to aid in increasing Harmony

by Maud Nordwald Pollock

CONFLICT: latin : Con - together Fliggere - to strike

RESOLUTION: latin: resolvere - to loosen, to dissolve

With this paper I would like to present another approach to conflict resolution. Resolution by using the energetic method I call "Feeling Dissolve©", which allow the individual to dissolve the feelings that are provoking the conflict, by neutralizing the need for conflict and increasing harmony, an opening is created for dialogue, cooperation, creativity and love.

As every one knows I am sure the word Conflict is derived from the Latin word: confliggere con- together / fliggere -to strike - Conflict : to strike together, obviously something that has to strike together is something that has been separate. In the context that we are using this word it expresses two opposing views. These views are beliefs, basic assumptions of the meaning of life, the self, religion, country, the "truth" for each exponent of this opinion.

In an article on Dialogue, David Bohm the renown physicist says " Opinions can tend to be experienced as "truths", assumptions that we are identified with, and which we defend. But as long as we have a defensive attitude - blocking and holding assumptions, sticking to them and saying "I've got to be right" - then intelligence is very limited, because intelligence requires that you don't defend an assumption The proper structure of an assumption or an opinion is that it is open to evidence that it may not be right."(1)

As a philosopher and Human Potentials consultant, I teach a Spiritual Psychology that reinforces the understanding and experience of oneness, conflict then represents to me, the state of separation from the whole. And as long as we remained in that state of separation, we continued the illusion that such a state is what was real.(2) The more we experienced separation the more we elicited conflict, judgments triggered conflict as aspects of that state of separation. As we return to oneness, we realize that in that oneness everything has a place and nothing is wrong or right, it simply is. What has made it seem right or wrong are the feelings that were attached to that "right" or "wrong". Our feelings of hopelessness, pain, fear, guilt, addiction, anger or arrogance are at the basis of our opinions. They steer our opinions, color them if you will. Often we have been so blinded by our feelings that there is no room for insight or wisdom, "intelligence" as Bohm calls it.

Actually, in the illusion of separation, and as part of the game of it, conflict was stimulated for it has its purpose, it assists us if we are willing to look inside ourselves, to get in touch with our own till now, unresolved issues. The outside conflict then was only a remembering, or mirroring for us of the conflict that resided inside ourselves. The judgment of others a projection onto others of that which we did not wish to see in ourselves. Not wanting to accept the shadow side of our being, that the behavior/actions of others reminded us of in ourselves. And as long as we were in conflict or separation with ourselves conflict needed to continue. So conflict has been the result of past denial, denial of our collective beingness, of our history as souls and humans. Every deed, every action of humanity is coded into the collective unconscious. The history of our antecedents, every deed every action is coded into our cells. Our bodies and our personalities are the mirror of that history. So each of us is humanity, and in this state of oneness which is all inclusive there is "good" and "bad". But what is good or bad? when seen from a multidimensional frame of reference, it is the illusion of time and space.

Conflict expressed the opinion "I am this and not that and because of it I am right and your are wrong". Ideas coupled with feeling become emotions. Emotions are at the basis of all beliefs and opinions. Pure Knowing or Wholeness is beyond emotion and therefore belief or opinion. In Spiritual Anatomy we know that the structure of our beingness, consists of multidimensional vibratory light structures, constructing and supporting the physical body. Because of this energetic configuration each idea has to pass through a particular frequency `body' that is the container of our feelings. The greater the collection of unresolved feelings, such as fear, the more distorted the ideas becomes. The more we held on to an opinion the more we expressed our fear of not being right and expressed our feeling of separation. It was also the fear of not being able to control the beliefs and actions of the other. Fear expresses a state of lack of harmony, of separation. Oneness is the expression of totality, totality is a state of unity, of belonging, of harmony; harmony, belonging and unity is experienced as love.

Separation as expressed by conflict represents "non love", or what I call "Lack of Love". Primarily it expresses "lack of love of self", for if we are linked through love to ourselves and are in a state of oneness, then we are unable to live conflict, since we see the other as an expression of ourselves. Conflict as an expression of a feeling of "lack of love" transforms in its state of separation into a feeling of disempowerment, which I call "Lack of Influence". Because we have felt separate we have wanted the other to become like us, consequently we have wanted to change others and the world to match our preconceived model of what things should be like; since this is impossible, we have experienced feelings of "Lack of influence". The more we felt our "lack of influence" the more we want to influence, this feeling of "Lack of Influence" has made us angry. Aggression and intractability, can result in physical conflict. From the feeling perspective then, conflict is a feeling of "Lack of Influence. This feeling of disempowerment when it expanded and augment, created ever more conflict, until there is was no remembering of the beginning or vision of an end, just the self perpetuation, the conflict feeding on itself as reflected by the killings in Cambodia or till now the war of Bosnia/Herzigovina, amongst others. The illusion stimulated by illusion. And this is the cosmic joke, the whole process is a building of illusion. Emotions are illusions, and feelings as an aspect of these illusions are like energetic clouds in our spiritual sky that kept the rays of the sun of wisdom and insight from touching us. Feelings are fabricated and convoluted illusion that move and propel us in and out of conflict.

So how do we increase harmony? How do we follow the natural process out of chaos of conflict, we set aside the illusion, our feelings. There are techniques such as the one I teach, which I call "Feeling Dissolve"K, which allow us to dissolve the cloud-like feelings, and access the sun of wisdom and insight, our intelligence. As feelings dissolve and insight dominates, conflict melts away. The feelings that caused the conflict loose their grip, and the ideas become neutralized which allow the individual the possibility of creative solution. New solutions, new insight a move once more to oneness - love - harmony- non judgment.

Conflict is the conflict inside the individual that needs to be resolved. First individuals need to be treated, then the group. In a situation of a group consciousness, the conflict reflects the lived out reinforced group conflict, which needs to be resolved by the group, in such a case a few powerful individuals can create a shift through their own transformation.

The first step in this process is the willingness of the individual or the group to open up to the experience of change. A willingness to examine the feelings attached to opinions; on what feelings these opinions are based and if these opinions would remain the same after "dissolving the feelings" that give these opinions their strength.

We are immensely powerful, we Spiritual Beings of Light who express ourselves in time and space, as human beings. We have a vast resource of tools to assist us in the interaction with others. We can affect others by being love and emanating it, by using with knowledge and conscious intent the energy frequencies of colors and sound, and most of all by what is known as "non action". Non action is not really a non action, it is the state of energetic neutrality, of acceptance of the other as knowing, and waiting for that knowing to be expressed. It is neither wanting or not wanting, it is being, and through being, allowing the other to be. It is eliminating the energetic pressure that our feelings emanate. The more we allow the other to be, the unified we become, the more we enable the other to be loving towards us, to mirror our own love and faith in ourselves, the more we love the others, the more harmony prevails.

In the past when we have not gotten what we wanted, it has been because we have been afraid of not getting it. This fear is a feeling and feelings as I mentioned, are increments of energy. The more we have been afraid the more we have wanted. As more fearful energy built up, we become energetically pushy, this increase of our energetic emanations in turn elicited resistance from that pressure in the other, the resistance is expressed by confirming our fear. Something like getting bitten by the dog because we have been afraid of dogs, or being teased as a child, until the we no longer reacted, at which time the teasing stopped because it no longer was interesting. The other resists because on the one side our pressure is saying: "I know and you don't." Energetically we denied the knowingness in the other. In which case energetically the other is compelled to say "OK you think that I don't know, I'll show you that you are right. I'll confirm your fear, by doing exactly what you expect, the opposite of what you want."

As we energetically dissolved our feelings of fear of not getting what we wanted and entered into trusting the knowingness of the other; the other no longer feeling energetically pressured, is therefore able to pick up and express our thought forms of what it was that we want, by giving us what we want, if that is for our greatest good.(3) This is oneness. Instead of needing to stay in separation, in conflict, that other part of ourselves, the other or others are able to complete with us, increasing harmony.